Nesha Frazier

Reading. Walking. Solo Movie dates

This isn't something I do well with. It's on my list for improvement. But I enjoy being alone and like to spend quality time with myself to pray, meditate, do nothing or breathwork.

I'm in a season of growth (planned and intentional). I'm stretching, open to who/what I am becoming. But the way that I digest feedback can trigger a lot of toxic self talk if not down with regard or kindness. I'm a doer and someone who gets things done. But my home situation is unlike most people I know (read moms with ambitions). So the journey to the outcome looks a bit different. I never complain about it. And sometimes that's a problem because I don't often acknowledge when I'm struggling. I'm actively practicing self compassion and learning to not be so hard on myself. So feedback that's considerate of that is helpful.

I receive gratitude best through communication. I'm an internal processor so anything that acknowledges regard for my boundaries, process and time ALWAYS goes a long way. I also love when someone allows me a chance to support them and meet them where they are in a struggle (or success).

People often assume being a working mom means that you don't want to be crazy successful. I'm the opposite. When I get free time (and my family has been loved on) I love the kind of work that I do. I just want to do more of it. So healthy balance (internally) is a struggle to some extent still. High performance is one of those things you have to understand the climate of the culture you're in. So I'm always working to understand the standards others have set for this bar.

Having a high eQ is a large key to my success with people. Navigating with a standard for myself as well. I like to show people who I am early and allow them to decide if I (or my style/approach) is a fit for for them. Mentorship is at the root of anything I do. I can't turn that off, unfortunately. I believe in high-courage conversations at all levels. It's often that level of authenticity that helps me to build deeper connections with people. I believe that you can have tough conversations in ways that are respectful, mindful and empowering.

I'm motivated most by my curiosity (learning). If something fascinates me enough, I become obsessed with it. that leads me down this rabbit hole of being motivated to answer my questions or discover a solution. Helping others is high on the list. But it's helping others from a place of empowerment. I like getting things done because left to my own devices, I can get in my head. Having a bias for action is one way that I have learned to overcome my overthinking. As a black woman, I don't shy away from the fact that we deserve to have our value rewarded financially. So earning money motivates me and it allows me to NOT have to worry about my babies.